Last updated on January 10th, 2020
You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So, let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles. ~ C. JoyBell C.
I am happy to participate in the A2Z challenge and writing about mental health. Because, the mental health which needs more attention in today’s hectic life, unfortunately, is overlooked most often. According to the WHO study (World Health Organisation), 20% of Indians suffer depression in their lifetime, only 10% seek professional help.
So, my theme is “26 MANTRAS TO IMPROVE MENTAL HEALTH.” Today’s letter is W and today’s mantra is “14 ways to let go of past relationships.”
Here are 14 tips that may help you change your way of thinking and free yourself from this burden:
1. Is letting go always a solution?
Before letting go of anything, you must analyze your situation properly. Sometimes, letting go is not always the solution.
- It delays forgiveness
- You feel cheated
- Sometimes, to let go before healing is dangerous.
But, don’t forget, not letting go is more harmful. Temporarily, it’s good but in the long run, it’s only you who suffer.
2. Don’t be hard on yourself
So, take your time, don’t force forgiveness on yourself too soon. Rather, divert your mind, find new goals, complete them. This way you can heal yourself.
Time is the best healer. Think, if you don’t forgive, it will keep causing you pain always. So, what’s more important, your happiness or not letting go?
3. Does that person deserve to occupy a permanent place in your heart?
Ask yourself, do you want that person who hurt you once, should occupy his/her place in your heart always? Is that person that is that important to you even more than your healing?
Just don’t give that person so much importance. And just let go.
4. What can’t be cured must be endured
Accept that you must let go of the things, which you haven’t control over.
If you are still holding on to a grudge, it’s only your loss dear. Nobody is going to be affected. Just leave everything up to Karma and Universe. Remember justice can be delayed but not denied.
5. Think about your past mistakes
No person is free from mistakes. Think about your own mistakes and understand human beings are like that. Doing mistakes is their nature.
Sometimes these mistakes turn into a blunder. Even God forgives you for your blunders, why are you resisting yourself?
It’s for your own sake only.
6. Release your anger
If possible, find that person and release your anger. It will remove the burden from your heart.
7. Anger management classes
Join a class. You can find them online. Their therapies are really good. You can also read a book related to anger therapies.
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8. Yoga and meditation
9. Make new friends
Okay, I am not asking to fall in love or look for a new relationship again. But making new friends is a healthy idea.
When you meet new people, you come to know their interests, new things and much more than you think.
You might find a wounded heart like you, in that case, the healing of your own heart is likely to be much easier.
10. Divert your attention
When your heart is bleeding, let go of your attention diverted. You can try to learn a new skill.
Do painting. Studies say, when you paint a canvas with a brush, you are painting your heart there, it is an indirect releasing of your pain.
This article may help you in this regard:
11. Turn your anger into your efforts
Like everybody, you also have some goals to get accomplished. Focus on your attention there.
When you work in anger, it accelerates your efforts. Anger works like a catalyst in your path to success.
12. Success is the best revenge
Who doesn’t love a successful person? Everyone wants to be with a successful personality.
Make yourself as valuable as a diamond. Don’t worry about the obstacles. They will always come to test your patience.
The person who left you will know one day that how foolish he/she was of leaving you.
13. Time is the best healer
Just perform your duties honestly and wholeheartedly even if you don’t feel courage. Remember, this is the only way to come out of this mess.
And once time changes, everything will change. Time is the best healer
14. Nothing is permanent
Nothing is permanent. This too shall pass.
You are not going to be stuck here always. Your heart will not always bleed like this. You will not underestimate your self-worth always.
Now, you are so hurt, you are not believing me. But don’t forget, the universe doesn’t work on what you believe or whatnot.
Justice can be delayed but not denied.
So, don’t just try to be cheerful, try to focus more on the ways to come out of this mess of emotions.
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